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Making Your Home a Haven: Clean Up the Clutter

I’m participating in the Making Your Home a Haven Fall Challenge at Women Living Well and this week’s challenge (cleaning up the clutter both in the house & spiritually) is going to be a bit hard for me…because I feel like my house is one huge mess all the time and don’t even get me started on how cluttered my brain is! In fact, I had to ask my hubby to intercede and pray for me last night since I couldn’t shut my brain down so that I could get some sleep! :-)

HOUSE CLUTTER

I wish I have a basket for everything in my house so that everything (such as Bella’s toys, hubby’s shoes, lots and lots of paper work, stuffed animals, etc.) has a place to go at the end of the day. My life would feel so much organized then……NOT! :-) There’s no end to cleaning up the clutter because….well, life comes at you fast.

It is so much better in my house though. I get many ideas from magazines and I clean up the clutter one by one slowly. My problem is…well, I get too many ideas and I want to try them all and all at once…..like today! :-) I get over zealous and try too many things too soon and end up with more clutter if you know what I mean. :-(

However, it’s getting much better for we have lived in our house for over 5 years now and my baby is almost 3 years old who knows how to clean up (thank you, Lord! *^^*). Though my hubby’s been saying that we have too many stuff so I wonder if I’m supposed to get rid of more things… hmm…

For this challenge, I’m spending 15 min. every day to clean up the counter mess in my kitchen & family room. Will see how that goes!

SPIRITUAL CLUTTER

I’m in a “good place.” Whatever that means. I just finished reading the entire Bible recently, I’m doing a Beth Moore Bible study on Acts as well as another small group study on the Holy Spirit. Am I making room for God? Yes. Am I doing what God wants me to do? I don’t know. Maybe and maybe not. Maybe not enough, for sure. My answer changes very often and perhaps consistency is what I need. But if you ask me if I’m free, then my answer is most definitely. I’m “spiritually” free. That is, I’m free in the truth because Jesus set me free.

The area I’m going to challenge myself in terms of spiritual clutter is my genuine relationship with God, free from all pretenses. It means I’m going to confess, cry out, petition, thank him, talk to him and ask for his peace and comfort any and every time I need Him. It’s means I’m going to be real, no faking, and treat Him as such. It’s just between God and me and I painfully know that He knows and sees me at all times. So why fake it and pretend? 

It is indeed hard to treat God as if he’s “real” meaning visible and touchable. But we all know that He is the most real thing in the world. I learned that by teaching my almost 3-year-old daughter the “real-ness” of God. I’m going to make Him real as if I can actually touch Him and see Him. That is my challenge and I’m going to start by calling Him to talk right now. :-)

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Making Your Home a Haven: Play Music

I’m participating in the Making Your Home a Haven Fall Challenge at Women Living Well and I’m a few days behind on posting this one but it’s better late than never, right? :-) This week’s challenge is:

“Play soft music everyday in your home. Choose worship, classical or another form of peaceful music that the family enjoys. Focus on using peaceful words and maintaining peaceful relationships. Remind your family to avoid seething anger, tattling, criticism or back talk. Role model gentleness this week.”

I love music so this is not that hard for me to do. I always have music, especially in the car (usually Z88, our local christian radio station, or Bella’s Bible songs with occasional adult secular music) and it’s a real blessing to hear my daughter singing the songs she listens to…well, at least she tries! There’s nothing like it and it always make me smile ear to ear and I feel a piece of heaven every time I hear her singing!

One of my favorite pianists is Yuhki Kuramoto, which I used to listen to all the time when I was in college, especially when I needed some peace, comfort and soothing in my life…. Now, I play for my daughter when she goes to sleep at night.

“The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.” -James 5:16b

It is so true and that is why I ask many of my righteous friends around me to lift me up whenever I need prayers in my life. Managing moods is one of the biggest areas I need prayers and being careful with words and how I interact with others, especially my loved ones, will greatly contribute towards making our home a heaven for sure!

Like that popular book many years ago, we don’t really need to sweat the small stuff and with little help from God, the world is really not that bad and people are quite lovely….well, most of the time! *^^*


Making Your Home a Haven: Light a Candle

I decided to participate in the Making Your Home a Haven Fall Challenge at Women Living Well for the fall and I’m praying that God will open my eyes to the things I have missed or show my heart the things I have neglected.

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” -Proverbs 14:1-

Indeed I long  to be a woman of Proverbs 31 (actually pretty much the whole Proverbs, come to think of it) more than anything and I want to be the wise woman and build my house, instead of tearing it down. I do sometimes feel like I’m doing exactly that…tearing down that is! :-( That is why this challenge is perfect for me at this time!

Light a candle and begin praying over your home every time the glimmer of the candle catches your eye.

I just lit the candle in my kitchen and said a little prayer. I know God tells me so many times throughout the day for me to “be still and know that He is God.” And my God indeed He is and forget I do indeed, so often! I pray and surrender everything to God and before I know it, I’m already trying to control everything in my life, fully knowing that they are totally out of my control! I know that lighting a candle is not going to fix that but perhaps my attitude that comes with a candle light might help me to be the woman Courtney from womenlivingwell.org described.

1. The woman of the home is engaged.

2. The woman of the home is wise with her time management.

3. The woman of the home has a pleasant demeanor.

4. The woman of the home is content.

5. The woman of the home prays.

And with that, I’m off to spend time with my precious daughter and be really engaged!


Our Deepest Fear

Below is one of my all time favorite quotes and I was thinking about it today.  In truth, we are all created by God in His own image and who are we not to be great?  Sometimes we’re too caught up in our own insecurities and we forget that we can achieve greatness through God.  Indeed, we are powerful beyond measure….


The Unbearable Lightness of Being

I’m wearing a princess tiara of Mother for this post. 

You want to discipline your child because you love her and you want the best for her but it is a terribly difficult task to do for certain.  I can’t help but feeling awful afterwards and I just want to cry my eyes out all day long.  You see, it’s not about me being “soft” and weak but it’s the combination of compassion and fear, believe it or not. 

My mother was a big time “spanker” and though she loved me, she didn’t always show it or know how to separate her emotions while disciplining me.  You can imagine how confusing that is to a child since the same behavior sometimes get you into trouble and other times not.  There was no hugging or saying “I love you” afterwards, either.  I’m not complaining though for my mother did what she could do to the best of her ability while raising three girls, dealing with her drunkard husband and being a bread maker for the family all at the same time.  She’s indeed a remarkable woman and I respect her for that tremendously.  However, I’d give anything to have what my daughter has, the show of compassion and love in regards to disciplining. 

I sometimes fear that my daughter fails to recognize my love and compassion for her in the midst of my disciplining her, hence, the fear factor.  I’m afraid because I do see my mother “coming out” of me from time to time when I’m disciplining my daughter that makes me raise my voice a little higher, spank little harder, get impatient faster and show warmth and compassion less….  I love my mother very much but I don’t want to be like her, not in this matter anyway.  Thank goodness, I have the authority and ability to break that bondage from my mother and be different in God’s truth and light.  And that is why I step back, breathe a big breath and pray a quick prayer for God’s help and guidance when I sense my mother coming out of me while disciplining my daughter.  

“For there is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one’s own pain weighs as heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.” –The Unbearable Lightness of Being

I love my daughter more than anything in this world and I won’t blink an eye before I lay down my life for her.  And that is why I discipline her to be obedient, know right from wrong and be holy as she is consecrated to God, set aside for His good purpose.  Still, it’s terribly difficult to see her lips tremble and eyes filled with “fear” when she’s being disciplined.  And that is why I cry and my heart breaks into a thousand pieces.  But I know better and that is why I’m ‘the displiner’ in the house, more so than my husband, which makes me ‘a bad guy’ sometimes.  But I know I’m doing the right thing somehow because when it comes down to things that really matters for my daughter (when she gets a boo boo, when she finds something new and exciting, when she just woke up and is in need of hugs and kisses, when she’s not feeling well and needs a shoulder to lean on, when she wakes up in the middle of the night from bad dreams, etc.), she calls out for her Mommy, which just melts my heart….

What comforts me is that my daughter knows that I love her and that she loves me back.  And though I feel the unbearable lightness of being to my core as an imperfect human being, I pray that my little girl would see God and His glory and understand His love and compassion through her Mommy’s love (however small that might be compared to God’s) for her.


A Submissive Wife

I’m wearing a princess tiara of wife for this post.

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” Ephesians 5:22-23-

Simple. Crystal clear. No confusion whatsoever there as to what God wants us wives to do; submit. So why is it so hard then?! Am I too stubborn and too head strong to be a wife? Was I not meant to play this part? I don’t know about you, ladies, but I am struggling here…almost everyday!

I love being a wife, don’t get me wrong.  I used to think that I’d never get married and that I’d live alone (without cats, of course *^^*) and have my career as my companion.  I was never satisfied with the society’s view on women (especially in my home country, South Korea) and I told myself that I’d never put myself through a relationship where I’m treated inferiorily to my husband or anyone for that matter. Plus, frankly I never thought I’d be lucky and blessed enough to meet a perfect someone who was provided by God, just for me.  Well, I met my husband, Peter, about eight years ago and that was that. 

I had relationships before my husband for sure since I was 25 years old when I met Peter.  But I have never experienced the feelings of being in love, so in a way, Peter is my first and last love.  He was the first man my heart ached for and the first man who made me understand the true meaning of feeling butterflies flying in my stomach.  I adore this man so much that it’s just ridiculous sometimes and I can not imagine my life without him (hence, I’m praying that God will take both of us home together at the same time!).  So yes, I love being a wife and I wouldn’t change it for the world.  But that doesn’t mean I didn’t have difficulties during our five years of marriage, and I’m still struggling (although it’s much better than when I just got married, thanks to my merciful Father in heaven!).

I tell you, I’m not a very “submissive” woman, period.  In fact, first thing I told my husband when we were dating was, “Listen, I’m not one of those Asian women who would bow down to serve and worship their husbands, so you can forget that.  In fact, I’m quite head strong and have opinion about pretty much everything, so you’d better get used to it!”  I don’t know why that didn’t raise a red flag to my husband back then but I am sure glad he didn’t run away from me. :-)  So no, submission doesn’t come to me naturally; therefore, I had a lot of problems with being submissive and respect my husband’s authority as a head of our household given by Christ. 

But of course, as He always does, God sent me His words when I needed them the most.  And it was quite simple.  God has given me the authority and power over the enemy (“I have given you authority to trample on snakes and scorpions and to overcome all the power of the enemy; nothing will harm you.” Luke 10:19-) but God gave the “final” authority to husband as far as the marriage is concerned (“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” Ephesians 5:22-23-).  I’m a very visual person and the image of Christ instructing the church and the church being obedient and submissive to Christ really spoke to me today.  I’m to receive my husband and treat him as such NO MATTER WHAT because God gave him such authority over me and who am I to say, no thank you, right?!

I’m blessed that my husband is a God-fearing man and that he loves and cares for me as Christ does church.  It definitely make it easier for me to love, respect and honor him.  Ladies, if you have a husband like mine, I say you join me and kneel down to thank and praise our Father for such blessing.  If you don’t have a God-fearing husband, my hearts go out to you and I pray that you’d kneel down and ask that God would guide and lead your husband to be a such man.  I pray that all the wives out there be submissive to their husbands so that it’s pleasing to our heavenly father.  Believer me, your marriage will get so much better the moment you have a submissive heart!


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